Do you yearn for those moments when you feel fully liberated, full of life, in fact bubbling over with joy? Would you like to develop more fun in your life? If you find that you are spending more time in talking about what others are doing or not doing, or feeling envious about their lives, let that be a lightbulb moment. This is the time to roll up your sleeves and get on with your own life. In other words, it’s time for less talking and more doing!
“Let the improvement of yourself keep you so busy that you have no time to criticize others.” ― Roy T. Bennett
Tips to help you get going
- To start with allow yourself a few minutes a day to sit quietly and let your mind wander, to daydream about the kind of life you’d like to have. Don’t hold anything back – instead pay attention to where your mind goes when it wanders. Don’t judge yourself, don’t think anything is foolish
- Write and record what you come up with in a journal, a notebook, or even on your pc
- Think about the moments in the past (and from now on in the future) when you felt fun filled. Not just the major times, the smaller moments also.
- Notice and record
- Set aside time for fun and make sure you log it in your diary – make it happen
Develop the Skill of Noticing
It’s really important to develop the skill of noticing when you feel “in the moment.” Recognise the signs of happiness, feeling energised and fully engaged. And remember these moments, rather than when you are judgemental or critical, both about yourself and others. Stop any self doubt and recriminations. No more “I should be…., I should feel ….”etc. And instead, make space for more fun-filled times. Otherwise you will find that the busyness of life takes over and any potential fun times are left way behind.
Create space and time for yourself – do you really have to be doing everything on your to-do list? Is it all essential? Is it all a priority? Or can some things be left out? Can you delegate some tasks to others?
Learn to listen to your instincts and what they tell you
Take note of when you feel you don’t want to do something in particular, but feel a sense of duty or responsibility to do it. What would happen if you stopped doing these things? What we tell ourselves becomes our reality! Long term stress and anxiety is so bad for both mental and physical health. It raises our cortisol levels which in turn makes our hearts beat faster. And raises our blood pressure, putting us at risk of a heart attack or a stroke. Make 2022 a year with less stress, more fun, and more enjoyment of life.
Give yourself permission
Seek out laughter and try to be more spontaneous, and less rigid. Do things in the moment, take the opportunities that arise and let your heart lead you, not your sense of duty. Give yourself permission – after all, life is meant to be fun, isn’t it?
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